Now that you are invited over to a Jewish wedding, there are questions doing rounds in your head. This is a common situation as few people know about Jewish traditions and no one wants to offend anyone from the Jewish community, especially when something as auspicious as a wedding is going on. There must be thoughts if wearing a Kippah or Yarmulke is compulsory. You might be thinking if wearing suede kippahs are permitted or not. So, the answer is it depends on the type of wedding you are attending.
Types of Synagogues:
There are typically three types of Jewish synagogue where the wedding might be taking place and each has their own set of dress codes.
- Orthodox: Orthodox synagogues require you to follow some stringent guidelines while attending any event taking place on the premises. The women dress etiquette demands the women to be fully covered without showing skin in any manner. The color of the dress should not be too bright or flashy and a married woman should cover their hair. Men need to wear long pants, long sleeves, jacket and a tie. Apart from that, men must wear Kippah or Yarmulke. However, a slight variation can be permitted like sporting suede kippahs, but one has to make sure the color is not too bright.
- Conservative: Conservative weddings have lesser guidelines than that of the orthodox ones. However, the guidelines also differ from synagogue to synagogue. The most common ones being the women can wear dresses that don’t show much skin, with the exception being the necks and backs. Men need to dress in the complete attire with a kippah. Suede kippahs, deluxe satin kippahs are allowed, but you should clarify with the family of the bride and groom.
- Reform: The most modern and liberal take on Jewish weddings are found in reformed synagogues. There is generally no dress code requirement, but you should check with the bride and groom if there are any guidelines. However, you might want to consider the dress code theme of the wedding as in casual, formal or a black tie event. Sporting a kippah like suede kippahs or satin kippahs, though not necessary, is recommended. You can clarify with the families before attending.
These are the three basic types of weddings you might have been invited to. It is safe to say that wearing a kippah is recommended and it also brings you close to the tradition. Variations of the traditional kippahs like the suede kippahs or the embossed kippahs are allowed in most synagogues. However, it is highly recommended that you consult the bride and groom before fixing your dress code.